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Cams's avatar

The jarring realization that you’re no longer who you used to be. No longer as confident and decisive and energetic at 17 to now being a 20-something or 30-something was not something I was prepared for.

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Caroline Beuley's avatar

I LOVED my brilliant friend! and I really loved this essay :) also I literally laughed out loud at “being on dating apps feels like putting yourself up for adoption” - so accurate!

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🤎🤎's avatar

having my exact thoughts being written by someone else- this is beautifully said

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sarah cucchiara's avatar

this is everything to me

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Firnita's avatar

i had a conversation with my friends yesterday about the way i expect my romance life to be is to feel like i’m with them (friends). i’m in groups of very healthy, empowering, liberating friendship that makes me feel like im always a little bit in love with them--if that makes sense. so when you write that paragraph about friends and romance, that resonates so much in me. thank you for writing this! carry onn✨

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léa :)'s avatar

that was really pleasant to read, really. it felt like I was reading one of the books written by sally rooney (and she's my favorite author) :)

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andrea's avatar

I resonated with every single line! Incredible writing! Here’s to trusting the universe to put us in the right place at the right time <3

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w Matthew Smith's avatar

if you have any religious affiliation, go to church. if not, go to concerts you like. do all this while lowering your expectations a tad and thank me later.

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Mo's avatar

This felt a lot like my January heart reaching out to itself. It's a service to remind ourselves that it's okay to be seen trying. Thanks for the words :^)

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❦ strawberry diary ❦'s avatar

Perfectly written </3

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www's avatar

maybe if you let me be your loverrr

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September Santiago's avatar

I seriously love this article with all that is in me, Faith. Thank YOU so much for inviting other Gen Z women into the fold of your personal struggles, because it pays off. You are definitely not the only one who feels the way you do. I'm currently unemployed, mourned a terrible past relationship, and am living at home--sometimes, I feel completely at a loss as to what its all for, and then I remember--we're all just learning.

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Whimsy dialogue's avatar

This is everything, I can resonate also laughed “ being on dating apps feels like putting yourself up for adoption” - perfectly written. Thank you.

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Riven DiMarco's avatar

the perfect example of ‘i knew everything at 19 and nothing at 23’ kind of vibes. this is literally what the inside of my brain looks like

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Mia's avatar

Hey girl u should listen to seventeen by Sharon van etten

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Mia's avatar

Also - love my brilliant friend- one of the first “adult books” i read and the whole series is wonderful.

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